When the kids forgot their thank yous, their mom took action
Jaime Primak Sullivan is an author and mother of three, which as any parent knows, involves patience and — crucially — resolve if one aims raise them to be good citizens of the world. One day while out with the kids, she observed some behavior that let her know it might just be an occasion to work on that second point. After setting the kids straight, she decided to share the incident on Facebook.
"So... I am the meanest mom ever... Like... Ever.
Took the kids to Dairy Queen after dinner. They ordered their dessert choices and we waited about 5 minutes for them to call out our number. The young lady (maybe 17) handed each child their ice cream. Not one looked her in the eye. Not one said thank you. Not to her, not to me... So I waited. I counted to 10 in my head as they dug into their ice cream and the young lady just looked at me (probably because she thought I was hearing voices) and I watched as my children strolled out the door. I followed them outside where I calmly collected their ice creams and my kids watched in horror as I deposited them into the nearby garbage can. All 3 launched into mass hysteria. I waited. Quiet. Calm. When they realized I had something to say, they quieted down.
I explained that one day, if they were lucky, they would work a job like that young lady. And I would hope that people would see them. Really see them. Look them in the eye and say thank you. We are too old at 8/7/5 to move through our days without exercising manners and honestly basic human decency.
So today, I am the meanest mom in the world.”
Reactions to Jaime's parenting methods were all over the map. "Well done! As someone who works in a restaurant and is continually ignored, I thank you for instilling your children with manners!" wrote one user.
Another commented, "I know that you're a mother, but in my opinion I thought that was a bit over the top and quite harsh, this memory will really stay with them."
What's your view? Could she have delivered the lesson without going to such extremes? Or will the extra drama indeed help her kids to remember what they learned? What lessons do you recall learning the hard way?