Couple adopts eight boys in eleven years all from the same mother
When Melissa and Scott Groves from Nebraska got married they wanted nothing more than to start a family. Melissa's daughter Autumn, from her first marriage, even wrote that she wanted another sibling on her Christmas list. But when Melissa was having difficulty getting pregnant and the couple went to the doctor to find out why, all their hopes were dashed. They were devastated when they found out that they would never be able to conceive a child together but they were also determined to become parents, so Melissa and her husband decided to adopt instead. In April 2004 they got a call that changed their lives forever. They found out that they would be able to become foster parents to three-year-old Noah and his 22-month-older brother Chase!
"We weren’t quite sure what to expect and they were scared and didn’t know what to expect either," Melissa remembers. "We learned together. They captured our hearts. After no more than a week or two, they were part of the family and I couldn’t imagine life without them." But then the phone kept ringing. The biological mother of the two boys had brought another baby into the world and his name was Garrett. Then another boy, Hayden, followed 11 months later. "Born with a cleft lip, drug exposed, and premature, this little guy had a rough road ahead, but he was as much ours as our other boys; of course we’d accept," remembers Melissa.
After Garrett came Ashton, Curran, and Bryer, who are now six, five, and two years old. Whenever the family Groves learned that the biological mother of the brothers was pregnant but unable to care for the children because of her drug addiction, they didn't hesitate to take the boys in. "Scott and I never had a discussion about it. We always said yes." The last baby was Zayn who is now one year old and was born with Down syndrome. He was officially adopted last year along with his seven brothers.
"I have to admit that it is at this stage of the game, people started to question my sanity, and there were many times I too was amazed and overwhelmed at the twist and turns that our life had begun to take. But there was something within me that truly felt these children needed to be kept together," explained Melissa. She does not hold a grudge against the biological mother either. In fact, she keeps in touch with her on Facebook to let her know how the children are doing: "She's not a bad person. I can't even imagine the pain she's gone through."
From Melissa's first daughter's single Christmas wish for a sibling to eight brothers in 11 years! And although it can be quite turbulent and chaotic for this family of 11, Scott and Melissa would never dream of giving up their band of brothers.
This brave and generous couple adopted eight siblings to make sure that they stayed together and that deserves a lot of respect. It's a touching story that shows how people with open hearts and arms can make a huge difference in other people's lives. For Melissa and Scott Groves that meant having the family they had always dreamed of. And for their boys it meant finding the safe and loving home they almost never had.